Unconventional Parenting

These days unconventional parenting, or what should be conventional parenting has become quite popular. Parents see the effect electronics and the digital age has on their young children and it's not good. We assume there is no radiation or danger from the tablets, phones and tv's we expose our children to, but the reality is that we don't know.

People are awakening and want their children to grow up in awakened states right from the start, rather than awakening in adulthood. People want to pass on the knowledge they've spent the greater part of their adult life discovering.

Attachment parenting 

Attachment parenting is becoming more and more common and personally, I think that's great. Everybody needs security, to feel safe, warm and protected. Children in particular need to know that when they need a hug, they have someone to hug. That when they're sick, they have someone whose lap they can fall asleep in. That regardless what age they are at, they can come to their parents and re-charge through hugs.

People used to be extremely keen on making their children sleep in their own beds, in their own rooms, trying to make them as independent as possible, but these days, co-sleeping  is becoming a valid alternative again. Sleeping in the same room as your child will not make them get a mom/dad/parent-complex or make them less independent. It will however make them feel safe, secure and it will also make them comfortable sleeping in the same room as others, which will make sleepovers, going to camps and travelling much easier for them as they grow older. It will also increase the chances of them being secure enough in themselves to have their own relationships when they are ready.

When families do not hug and children have no one to hold on to, feel safe with, the children grow into adults and teenagers with an intense longing for intimacy as well as a fear of intimacy. They have never experienced intimacy which makes them both desire it and fear it, which in its turn can make it more difficult for them to make friends and form any kind of real relationship. They may also have a hard time speaking up for themselves, talking in front of people and even answering the phone, without knowing who is on the other end.

On the other hand, when children are brought up in an intimate environment where you can always get a hug, always have someone to confide in, sit near, and be with, they are used to that and will then attract those kind of relationships in their adult life as well.

Baby-wearing

Another way of bonding with your children when they're young is using a baby wrap or a carrier to keep them close to you, while still letting them be able to discover the world. At the same time, you will be able to use both your hands, and your kiddies can take a nap whenever they want. If you are breast - or chest-feeding, you can do that at the same time too.

Cloth diapering

Cloth diapering was the only alternative in the past and people saw disposable diapers as the salvation basically, something that would free up their days and simplify their lives. But disposable diapers are not the best choice for your baby. Most - though not all - disposable diapers are expensive, made from plastic and are extremely bad for the environment. They can also give your children rashes or even make them develop allergies. Cloth diapering on the other hand is budget friendly, safer for your baby's fragile skin and simple to use as well. Some people imagine the cloth diapers of the past and shudder, but cloth diapers today are not like they once were. They are so very easy to use, to wash and they come in so many types of fabrics, patterns and colours. A newborn baby could go through nearly 20 diapers a day. That's 140 diapers a week and 600 diapers a month. Imagine how much that'll cost you. Then imagine buying cloth diapers, ONCE, and being able to use them for ALL your children. Never running out of diapers, never needing to break your budget and never needing to go into a Supermarket feeling dizzy over the extreme variety of disposable diaper brands and sizes.

Breast-milk

Breast/chest-feeding has since the new millennia become such a hush hush topic. People are sexualising breastfeeding and trying to forbid parents from feeding their children in public. We are all fine and dandy with putting topless women on huge posters but we somehow have a problem with parents feeding their babies? Absolutely ridiculous. 

Fortunately, as those against breastfeeding are increasing, so are those for extended breastfeeding. Breast-milk is the absolute best thing for a baby. It has everything your baby needs and is specifically designed for your baby and their growth. While I don't think there's a need for children who walk and talk to be fed at a chest, I do believe in every family finding their own right time to wean their children. Personally, I think the right time is when the child dictates it is the right time. Unfortunately, not all families have the option to breastfeed or at least not to do it for longer than the first six months. But if you can breastfeed or chest-feed, or you can get your hands on donated breast-milk, I think it is the absolute best thing you can do for your baby.  Formula contains additives and often also dairy, neither of which are ideal to introduce to a baby. If you are uncomfortable breastfeeding, perhaps you should consider a pump and feeding your child by bottle instead. But if you do, do hold your baby close and if you can, with your upper body bare or with minimum clothes on. Skin to skin contact is crucial.

Homeschooling

Homeschooling, while forbidden here in Sweden, is something that is growing in popularity throughout the world. People don't want their children to be brought up in the restrictive oppressive school environments, where the children learn only what someone dictates they should, and not a thing more. They want to be able to go outside with their kids, travel with them, teach them the true side of history, how to grow food, how to cook, and all the"old-fashioned" skills that will make their lives infinitely more independent and simple.

Genderneutral parenting

Another type of parenting that is somewhat seen as unconventional, but is becoming more and more common, is gender-neutral parenting. Parents are challenging society's gender rules and norms and bringing their children up neutrally, with access to everything, be it dolls or cars, pants or dresses, pink or blue. They acknowledge how ridiculous it is to gender-mark children and to act as if a colour or a garment dictates gender. By allowing their children to discover their own personality, style and gender identity, they are creating an environment where those children will never ever have to come out if they like someone of the same gender, or if their gender and their genitals do not match. They are raised as individuals and taught that while some are born with an innie and some are born with an outie, that does not indicate what gender they identitify with, how they should look, dress or act.

 

Personally, I hope there comes a day when the 'gender reveal' parties are no longer a thing and when the first thing an expecting family is asked is not 'Is it a boy or a girl?'.

 

Plantbased wholefood diet

 

Beans are becoming the protein of the future and people worldwide are going vegan. Whole families are going plant-based and start eating only wholefoods, cooking everything from scratch. By doing this, they are healthier, their immune systems are stronger, the environment grows healthier and no animals get in harms way. Some hesitate to go plantbased out of fear that the food isn't good or that it is too expensive. I'm hear to tell you that the food is bloody excellent and in the same way that you can be a meateater at any budget, you can eat plantbased at any budget as well. It is even more simple to eat budget friendly healthy food on a plant-based diet. 

Get some dry beans, quinoa and bean pasta in bulk, grow/find free fruit and turn it into fruit leather, grow/get free vegetables and turn them into kimchi and sauerkraut, get some black tea and turn it into an ongoing batch of kombucha and you'll be good to go. Read these articles to find out more ways to go about an inexpensive plant-based diet.

Embrace the unconventional!